WHAT IS THIS GROUP ALL ABOUT???.
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From: Christina M.
Date: Thursday, August 10, 2006, 1:21 PM
Subject: What is this group all about???.
Reply to: 256180
ID: 253767
Greetings my sisters:
This is my first posting here, and I hesitated before doing this,
but I've been reading these posts - about joining/not joining groups
that exclude/oppress women, about collective agreements, and moving
boulders, etc. - and something sprang to mind when I read White
Feather's post below that I thought needed saying.
An herbal teacher of mine once had us do a very interesting exercise
in a teaching circle. She had us all get comfortable sitting on the
floor, and then told us to "get balanced." We all breathed and
concentrated and got ourselves into that state, and then she said -
"Now DANCE!"
We couldn't do it, of course - because "balance" is a static state,
not a dynamic one. You can't dance when you're in a state of
balance, but you can dance like an dervish when you're centered, and
that was her point. It might sound like splitting hairs at first,
but I think there's a real difference there that might be of value
to this circle as a defining concept.
Among the many hats I wear is one of a cultural linguistic
anthropologist, and I've been a raging feminist since... well, for
as long as I can remember, so I've collected odd bits of information
and insight here and there through my academic readings over the
years, all of which have added to the breadth of my understanding of
myself as a woman living in a hierarchical patriarchy. Yes, yes, I
know - those inflammatory buzzwords... but my immediate question is -
"Inflammatory for whom?"
Modern women have a challenging task before them - we need to find
our center. We're "balancing" just fine in our present society;
we've found ways to "get through" all the nonsense that faces women
in their lives - unequal treatment before the law, oppressive fiscal
burdens, medical insanity around "women's troubles" - come on, you
know what it's like out there. But I've read, over and over again,
in a wide variety of texts, the very real observation that women
have consistently, over the millenia, thrown in lots with men,
hoping that the problems specific to being a woman will be addressed
in the course of solving "men's problems" - and it never EVER
happens. Men solve their problems and tell us they'll take care of
us next time around. We give it away, every time, because we don't
want to UPSET THE BALANCE.
And we don't want to upset the balance because we're afraid. We
know, deep down on some subliminal level (some of us on a more
immediate one), that if we piss the men off, they're going to turn
on us and stop being nice about it and we'll lose the little we
have. The powers that be will be nice about it as long as we are,
but when push comes to shove, the kid gloves come off and we see
just exactly what their agenda is - and it doesn't include us.
Michigan (I think that's the state) is about to run out of money to
fund breast cancer screening for uninsured women, and will have to
close those clinics because the federal government has cut the
funding for that initiative nationwide. Do you think this would
happen in a woman-friendly society? Do you think we'd be building
hospitals in Iraq and closing them in the United States if we had a
feminist in the White House? Women have been told, for their entire
lives, in a million different, very subtle ways, that the way to be
okay in this world is to "be nice," to "get along," to NOT UPSET THE
BALANCE. And goodness, hasn't that tactic worked well for us, huh???
White Feather puts her finger directly on the problem when she talks
about our longing for a savior. We want someone - a single person,
an institution, a religious group or leader - to come and solve our
problems for us, AND IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. It's basic social
math. Somebody has to do the scut work - who's it going to be? The
girl or the boy? Quelle surprise! It's us! And it's ALWAYS going
to be us - not because there's some huge conspiracy going on out
there, but because the people in power (i.e., the men) want to stay
in power, and nobody in their right mind actually WANTS to do
laundry. The person on top makes the person on the bottom do the
scut work, and that's never EVER going to change unless the person
on the bottom UPSETS THE BALANCE. And the person on top is not
going to go gentle into that good laundry room - they're going to
wheedle and weasle and bully and legislate - and bite and hit and
kill, if necessary - to hold on to the hierarchical dominance they
currently possess. Remember, my sisters - it wasn't the white guy
at the front of the bus who said, "Oh gosh, Rosa, you look tired
today - here, take my seat." It was Rosa Parks who decided for
herself that it was time to change, and she nearly lost her life
making that decision stick. Many African Americans DID lose their
lives in the fight for civil rights - because they UPSET THE
BALANCE, and the balance didn't like it, and fought back. But
that's what it took. It's a scary thing to be the one -
particularly the first one - to call out an injustice, but that's
the only way it's ever going to change.
This doesn't mean that every man is a monster - quite the contrary.
We can make deeply satisfying alliances with lovely, sensitive
men... and still wind up doing the damned laundry, because we're
afraid to UPSET THE BALANCE.
Ladies (excuse me - sexist term) - women - we are never going to
change the current social paradigm without letting go of the balance
thing. We're going to have to play... well, maybe not rough, but
certainly not nice. We're going to have to speak some hard truths,
out loud - through a bullhorn if necessary - and they will be things
men do not want to hear, because they all understand the injustice
that has prevailed all these years. We'll have a phalanx of "soft
men" stop by to assure us they're on our side, and "here to help,"
and tell us, as they've been telling us for millenia, that the thing
to do is go back into the laundry room and let them take care of it
for us. They will do their very, sincere best to convince us that
it's in our own self-interest to NOT UPSET THE BALANCE. But that is
the only way things are ever going to change.
We need a womanspace, and I had thought this was it until I started
seeing posts from men. Lovely, soft men, I'm sure, but we spent a
great deal of time talking to them and arguing with them and trying
to persuade them of our points of view, and frankly, I got tired of
reading it. What women need to do, I believe, is what I've
dubbed "removing the womandate" (as opposed to the MANdate). No,
it's not okay with us - us women, as women, as women joined into a
solid whole - that you do (whatever it is you're doing) - AND WE'RE
NOT GOING TO BE NICE ABOUT IT. It's not okay that a woman on the
700 Club - which has made an industry out of the assault on women's
right to choose what happens to and within their bodies - is
a "lovely woman" who has good things to say. SHE'S A PAWN, GALS -
WAKE UP. That's how they do it - and we fall for it every time. We
have to stop worrying about being nice and being balanced and get
ourselves up out of the hole we've been buried in for the last
14,000 years, and it's not going to happen without UPSETTING THE
BALANCE.
I don't want to raise anyone's consciousness. It's not my job, and
frankly, it rarely works; anyone beyond the age of 12 who still
thinking "boys are better than girls" is beyond hope, and the only
thing I want between me and them is distance. We need to remove
ourselves from the institutions and organizations that oppress
and "other" us. And that means Christianity, and the Baha'i, and
Islam, and Judaism too, for that matter (at least Orthodox Judaism),
and probably most of the political parties that I can think of right
off the bat. THEY ARE NOT "FOR" US. They are for themselves, they
are for the current "balance" of power, and we need to look right at
it and speak the truth, even if it UPSETS THE BALANCE. Because
the "balance" sucks, and I'm damned sick and tired of doing laundry -
you know?
Karl Marx said it nearly a hundred years ago - "Religion is the
opiate of the masses," and I see much of the New Age philosophy
going right down the same road. It's not about anger, and it's not
even about "being mean" - it's about finding a womanspace, a
spiritual center, that holds to the radical concept that women are
fine, just the way they are, and that the differences between men
and women are to be celebrated, and not assigned relative worth.
What's more important, the Moon or the Sun? The air or the water?
Up or down? Absurd questions, of course, but these questions have
all been asked, and answered, by our society. The "either/or"
paradigm reigns supreme in our culture. Up IS better than down
(because up is heaven and down is hell), and mind IS better than
body (because thought is superior to that icky girl stuff that goes
on every month), and spirit IS better than emotion (oh, those pesky
emotions!) - our society divides everything into twos, and then
decides which side is "better," and associate everything "good" with
men and everything "bad" with women. Which comes as no surprise,
since it's the men doing the judging.
I'm not proposing that we remove ourselves from men entirely
(although I frankly think it would be a great lesson for them if we
did) (for about 20 years!) (let them do their own damned laundry for
that much time - bet they'd treat us better afterwards!!!), but I am
proposing that we remove ourselves from situations, relationships,
offices, political parties, religions, and human gatherings of all
description that do not honor us - and to do it deliberately,
vocally, and if necessary, theatrically. It is (yet another)
illusion to think we can ever hope to "subvert from within," because
we can never get close enough to the center of power to change the
rules that oppress us. And apologizing for the organizations,
religions, etc., who do this, and asking our sisters to "overlook"
the nasty bits, only feeds this oppression and - most important, to
our oppressors - divides us among ourselves.
We have to get serious about this, sweet ones. We've beaten this
paradigm to death - almost literally. We're about to kill our
entire planet, not to mention most of the life on it, by worrying
about the damned BALANCE. Screw the balance. Let's aim for
centering, and see if maybe the power generated by owning and
honoring who we are will put us over the top. [Required viewing for
everyone with internal genitalia: IRON-JAWED ANGELS, about the
fight for women's suffrage in the 20s. Those gals had guts, let me
tell you.] Let's not vote for sexists - and tell them why they lost
our vote. Let's withdraw from religious organizations who treat us
like second class citizens - and tell them why we're not putting
money in their plate anymore. Let's refuse to do business with
companies who pay their female employees less than their male ones
(can you guess who I'm talking about here????) - and tell them why
we're taking our business elsewhere. Let's step - no, let's LEAP,
boldly and joyously - out of the feminist closet and refuse to
settle for anything less than full partnership in our society. And
scream and yell and march and howl and chain ourselves to the gates
of the White House until we get it.
I was going to close this with "In peace," but I think that's a
trap, too, so I'll close it with these wise words: "If you long for
peace, work for justice." Sounds good to me!
Blessings to you all on this beautiful day.
Christina / Quanah'che Mawokee
The Feathered Serpent Women's Lodge
Albuquerque, New Mexico
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